So the question was posted last week, how can relationships win? It seems many parents were raised with parents who subscribed to the old adage that "children be seen and not heard", or "until you start paying the bills around here keep quiet!" While these attitudes keep parents in the authority position, I am not sure it is the most healthy authority position for children and the family.
What I am proposing is not that parents give up their authority, but that they change how they go about that authority. You see if one person wins in a relationship then the other person loses and the relationship loses. So how is it possible for the relationship between a parent and child win?
Parents are you picking battles with your children and family that arent worth picking and only cause more chaos?
Are you respecting your childrens feelings and emotions even if they seem irrational or inaccurate?
Are you shutting up and just listening sometimes, not trying to fix?
Are you putting the ball back in their court so they can learn responsibility and how to make good choices?
Are you letting your teenagers fail so they can learn that conflict causes change?
All these questions can be looked at so the relationship between you and your child can WIN!
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